From my perfectly imperfect family, to yours…

It’s late morning on Christmas Eve day. Hanukkah also begins this evening. A scroll through my Facebook feed shows me most of my friends and acquaintances all over the world are engaged in some form of last minute holiday preparations. I’ve been sick for the past couple of days, and am pretty weak and tired, so the things we normally do in the days leading up to Christmas – mostly baking – are not going to happen this year. And that’s okay. 

As I was thinking about what I wanted to share with this community as a holiday wish, I saw an Instagram post from the amazing Glennon Doyle Melton. In just a part of her message , she managed to say it all…”Rest. Love your people. Done is better than perfect.” 

We know that family is real, raw, broken and beautiful all of the time. Holidays magnify that. And that’s okay. Live in the moment, laugh at the messiness, and love with all you have. 

So from my perfectly imperfect family, to yours…Merry Christmas. Happy Hanukkah. Peace be with you. 

Holidays Are Rough – But a Furry Friend Can Make It Easier

4th of July is winding down. We are in NJ visiting my husband’s family, and Independence Day is a BIG DEAL in the town where he grew up. There’s a parade, food & games at the town park, and an extended family & friends barbeque to round out the day. 

We knew my son would probably have a difficult time today – too many potential triggers for anxiety and panic. At the parade he had a couple of small panic attacks, both caused by loud noise. And then he spent the bulk of the parade like this…

Following the parade we went to the celebration at the town park, hoping to get some food and maybe let the kids ride a couple rides. My son took one look at the people assembling in the park and was struck down by panic. It was too much. He didn’t even have it in him to try to be there. He turned and practically ran to a place where there were no people. We tried to talk him through it and encouraged him to use one of the coping skills he’s been taught. Nothing worked. He just needed to leave. My husband took him home, but the damage was done and it took the next 2 hours to get him back to a calm state. 

And once the party started, he spent much of the time like this…

 Holidays are rough….but a furry friend friend can make it easier.